What comes to your mind when you hear the word “Relationship” ?? That its the basic bond that we humans share amongst each other? That its a need of human beings ? Or what ?
For me I’m unable to define the word as of yet ! May be yeah its the need.. or the entanglement…or if we go by dictionary meaning it is: an emotional or other connection between people.
You say why am i writing on relationships today ? Well, good questions actually ! Writing this since i have come across too many anecdotes about relationships breaking and forming recently.
I was chatting with this friend of mine yesterday and we discussed work place relationships. Spoke a lot about them and discussed our individual experiences at office. There are relationships which are so good that you feel so connected to people involved in that relation. And then there are relationships which turn sour and you regret life long as to why did it happen.
Had just got to know from a close Friend about her break-up with her spouse. Felt a pinch,a strong one ! What first came to my mind was: How could people do this ? How could they gather courage to break off a nuptial knot. How ?? But when the news slowly sinks in you realise that there must have been some strong reason for the couple to break-off. And before knowing it i just made a judgement about their capabilities to save the relationship ! How swift !
Learnt from another friend of mine that she broke of with her boy friend. Yeah, its sad. And this break off has made her go so low in life that she has forgotten how to enjoy life to the fullest. She is smart, intelligent, beautiful,single and self sufficient. Then why does she has to depend on a relationship to keep her motivated towards living life happily and find happiness in all Small things that life has to offer ? Is it the entanglement that has left marks on my friends heart ?
Then there is this friend of mine who is happily married and actually doing good with his wife. What makes their relationship click ? What makes them a happy couple ? Is it the need that makes them compromise equally and go on in the relation happily ?
There are friendships too ! And there are close friendships… commonly called as Best Friendships !! I remember when i was kid..my school friends,almost all of them were my best friends ! Ha 🙂 Actually is there any definition of Best Friend ? How do you decide who is your best friend and who is not ?
Does best friendship depend on communication only ? Does it fade with the time and geographical distance ? Does it depend on whats your status-rich,poor,average middle class ?
Have heard that: Siblings are given by GOD, Friends are chosen by us !! So true !!So GOD has given us an option to choose our friends at least ! Relaxation ?? 😉
Hey so what do we get to know then ? Relationships are of following categories:
Boy / Girl Friends
In my view all these relationships are important and needed in our lives !
If we give them a breathing space they will never become and entanglement. They will be your strength. Everyone in life needs his / her own little space that is essential ! We need to allow people take some time out of everything and spend it with themselves…may be this will work as a facilitator in building and strengthening all relationships.
We need not forget that we humans can’t live alone and at the same time can’t live with people all the time around. There are things we might have to change for some relationships. We must !Do kadam tum chalo, Do kadam hum chalein…
Have heard in movie-U Me aur Hum .. Jaroori yeh nahi ki tumhe kya accha lagta hai. Jaroori yeh hai ki tumhe jo accha lagta hai, use kya accha lagta hai !!
Its just about giving space, a little consideration and importance to our lived ones ! It works… even if there are little fights.. that’s okay.. i think a little friction is must !
Solution: Make two cups of coffee and talk to your loved one for a while ! I’m sure it will help !!!
You say does it work in my relationship ? Yeah, it does ! If not coffee all the time then i at least give some time to let it cool and go back to the person who is angry.. yeah it surely depends how important is the person. But hey, wait ! How should it matter ? Even if that person is not very close to you, its a relation right ? So why not try to save a relation ?I think Life it too short and there are few people who come in your life and you are happy with them being what they are.. so why not stick to it..why not save the relationship ? Why let it go just like that ?? Why loose ? THINK !!
Between me and hubby dearest. Its plain and simple. The ingredients are clear to us to make a great relationship and we both make sure we blend it in right proportion ! Well to share:
We keep adding the elements and dressing to the mix and here we are with a great relationship !!
Cheers Hubby, i know you are smiling !