Could not help but post it here. Nothing great to share but something which is making me wonder. 3 of my friends, in a row, broke the news of their marriage being no more. Dead ! Parted their ways with their respective husbands. Isn’t 3 a big number and on top of that getting all 3 just in 30 days ? What surprised me is
-All 3 news are of separations.
-All 3 love marriages!
-All 3 marriages were not even a year old !
Do you believe what you just read or it’s just pretty normal and I’m giving it the not-so-required importance ?
Does this dying of marriage (read:relationship) in infancy relates to women being independent today ? That she doesn’t require a man to be with her or support her for the sake of society norms ? OR because men are not so very keen to nurture the relationship with time and love and are busy running after their careers? OR The world is becoming a place where we will only find 9-5 relationships and the people in the form of programmed robots (read:workaholics and ambitious) ?
My personal experience: me and the hubby dearest fight with each other quiet a lot of times like any other normal couple. And we say the meanest things to each other at that time which also includes packing bags and parting ways. But it’s just the matter of that moment..soon the storm settles down and we realize that this is one thing we can’t do-separate ! Marriage like any other relationship has ups and downs and its between two people who can make it work by adjusting and compromising a little bit and enjoying the differences amongst each other. I also agree that if at all the individuality is getting harmed in saving a marriage then I think the decision has to be taken for sure.A man and a woman, both of them should get the required space to maintain the bit which identifies who they individually are rather than changing the personality totally just for the sake of keeping the marriage !
I think there are 3 types of people:
One who drown themselves so much in work or family so that they don’t get time to even think about their marriage.
Second who just break off if they feel they are not happy with their marriage.It’s just that we have this option of parting our ways in marriage so we easily opt for it whereas in other relationships we don’t have any lawful term called “divorce” which will allows us officially to put a full stop..so we continue being into those relationships ! How fair is that?
Third, who will do whatever it is required to make their marriage work !!
Don’t we need more 3rd type of people???I don’t say getting married is important..it’s an individual choice…but being into marriage and moving a bit to make it work is important-for both partners !!
On the lighter note: This is my 100th post !