What happens when one fine day your existence is shaken by a fact that you were adopted years ago ?
How do think would you deal with this situation ? How do you think you would react ? What could be the possiblities you would consider ?
Would you like to find out the truth,your birth parents or would you be able to dump it,forget it ?
Will you be the same and the people around you..your ’till now’ family will remain same ?
Lot of books have picked up this issue of adopted children and a movie that I recently came across- ‘AMU‘. Currently the book that I’m reading- Nora Robert’s “Birthright” deals with this issues with other issues simultaneously. I’ve also bought one book recently which supposedly has the similar issue [since I’ve yet to start reading the book,read the review only]- Shilpi Gowda’s “Secret Daughter”.
What is one suppose to do with this kind of fact of life ? It’s shocking for sure and breaks your entire universe into pieces. It’s a difficult emotional ride which one cannot escape. Though at the end of the day we know it’s a movie or a book…but think about it..really..there could be these cases in reality too..what must they be going through ? Questions that arise in mind are..
Why would someone want to tell the adopted child that he / she was adopted [when it has not been told since ages]
Why would someone [read: adoption parents] not want to tell the truth to the child as he / she matures to handle the truth ?
Why on earth adoption is made such a hue and cry ? I mean it’s a noble cause and let people who are genuinely wanting to do it..do it ! I’ve had a first hand experience in my family..one of my cousin brothers and SIL have adopted a girl child and they had to go through a great grill before they could bring the child home !
Finally, why would people want to adopt a girl child ? Why is it on priority ?
Don’t get me wrong here..I myself want to adopt a girl child may be few years down the line…but I have my own reasons behind ‘girl’ child adoption…I think if I can’t save all the other girls in the world being exploited [most of them] then at least I can do my bit by adopting one and giving her a better life and a family who will care ! Not that boys are not being exploited…but there is this bias of gender somewhere in my mind..forgive me for this…but I still feel a boy would still manage his life somehow…but a girl who is disowned by her birth parents would fall into wrong hands [most of the times]…I may be totally wrong ..but this is what I think ! Also when I’ve a limitation of adopting one child then it would be a girl !
Which sex would you choose if you were to adopt a child and why ?