Once when I was living in hostel I lost my mobile phone.I was very very upset and whined about it for few hours. Past afternoon I was quiet okay and had accepted about the fact that my mobile is lost ! That is when a hostel mate comes at the dining table, where we all girls were having our dinner, and talks to other girl, “Dekh to mobile kho gaya aur ro bhi nahi rahi hai” that I’ve lost my mobile and I’m not even crying !
While at school it so happened that our unit test marks were being announced in the class and our copies were being shown to us. All of a sudden my friend started crying.After a while another friend and like wise at least 3-4 girls did this crying job. I was amazed to see all this. After that lecture, in the interval when we friends were gathered to eat our lunch this friend of mine started the topic of marks and the all the crying that happened. And they all told me that I didn’t feel bad about getting 7 marks less than the highest and they were sure about it since I didn’t shed any tears.
I have come across these kind of incidences where people say things they should not say and give those dirty looks they should not give to people who are already grieved. My point here is,are tears everything and the only way to show your grief ? Just because you don’t have tears in your eyes does that mean that you are not feeling bad.Is there any tear-o-meter available to check how many tears one shed and how grieved one is ?
Tears or no tears. Sulking or no sulking. The loss is a loss.Be it a small or a great one.A loss breaks down the person and it takes lot of energy and will power of that person to come out of it !
It’s always better to look forward and that’s what we also tell people who are in a bad phase of their lives. Just because you don’t get a chance to console someone doesn’t mean the person is wrong ! If the person is able to come over the pain and to be positive, in my view that person is nothing but BRAVE..so what he/she didn’t shed any tears !
I think we need to also take into consideration that there are people who don’t like to show what they are going through or don’t like to cry in public.So let them just be ! What’s your take ?