Came across a friend lately who wants a way out of her marriage.Said that she tried everything that could put them back together like earlier times but nothing is working out and hence she is left with breaking off..I don’t deny that she might not have tried every possible solution to save the relationship…sure she must’ve but…yes this but comes into picture! But… When is the right time to break free from a relationship ? When is the right time to know that you’ve tried everything ? Do we have any set parameter ? Any measures ? When is THE enough enough ?
When we are, may be say, marrying do we do this analysis ?Yes! Do we not take time to think whether we want to get married to xyz person or not ? Or for that matter don’t we think whether we are clicking with certain someone and then make friends with ? So,why do we
make haste want to make haste while breaking ? Or we really are right when we are doing that one thing which might as well spoil lot of other people’s lives ?
I’m not just talking about my friend in particular but in general…everyone in their lives goes through a rough patch in some or the other relationship..I’ve been through a bad friendship myself..so what is the best possible way out?? Well,every relationship has a different angle to it too..a lot of things depend on the dynamics of the set up..the people involved in it…the things that matter… I agree to all of it..but ultimately it hurts..doesn’t it ? Any relationship going for a toss creates a deep tunnel in your heart which is never filled..nothing called time can also fill that vacuum…but we only realize this later..when,may be,it’s too late…after all it only happens in the movies like “Chalte Chalte” and “Raja Hindustani” where in the couple bounces back to normal times even after so much misunderstanding between them…
So, why do we want to go away from our loved ones ? What makes us behave in a manner which takes us away from our own people ? Why can’t we,each one of us in the relationship,think what can be done on our part to not let ourselves reach to the brim and spill ?
We just need to remember that our lives are not ‘chalte chalte’..so we have only one chance…love your loved ones and don’t misunderstand them..that’s the mantra..maybe 🙂