Recently at a family gathering I was told about a distant cousin [3rd or may be 4th cousin] who was present there with her husband and a cute little baby girl-that she has married a non-maharashtrian [non-brahmin to be precise]-of course by going against the entire family like uncles and aunts and the parents and the siblings et al-plus the pair looked a bit odd. Now how you ask ? My cousin is taller than her husband by few centimetres and that he is bald..to add to the tiniest details-he is not ‘that’ rich as per our family’s parameters.
Me and my first cousin who were being fed by these silly details,were surprised to hear almost everyone was talking about the couple-of course in hush hush ! It occurred that this was their first presence in the huge family gathering like this after their marriage and hence they were the centre of discussion that day !
I always tend to question these so-called distant uncles and aunties about their opinions.Well,they seem to have an opinion about everything existing on this earth and beyond. But specially when it comes to individual choices like marriage. Of course it was a love marriage and the girl made her own choice.Okay,honestly yes the tall girl and a short guy do look different but that’s that…you need not call them ODD or MISFIT just because of their height or colour.
I remember ‘Jab We Met’s dailogue here: woh pyaar mein the aur pyar mein kuch sahi aur galat nahi hota
Trust me she appeared very very happy with the guy-the so called shorter-than-her-bald guy !What else could you ask for ? The first and foremost things that parents see for their children in the marriage is Stability and Happiness,isn’t it ? And the couple really looked both of it-Stable and happy-if not affluent !
I don’t say that every person who opts for a love marriage against the family lands in the right place-of course there could be mistakes taking place in judgement.But this doesn’t mean that every person,opting for love marriage,lands up in the wrong place with the wrong person. Just because someone has not married according to your rituals and customs doesn’t mean the couple is entirely wrong in their choices…I request these relatives to base their gossips and negative jabber on some hard facts.
One of my first cousins also got married outside the caste. In fact 5 out of 7 of my first cousins married outside our caste-yes non-brahmins at that. So what ! Touchwood, all these 5 couples are happily married since 10- 15 years now and have happy lives with lovely children ! There are some interesting anecdotes behind these marriages-some typical filmy style…would share them soon 🙂
How does it matter ? Same caste or no…same religion or no ? It matters only when the two people involved in the relationship are not comfortable with the changes taking place in their lives there after. But a well thought decision if taken by mature adults and if they’re successful at conducting the relationship, then who are these relatives to de-mark or de-fame the LOVE marriage on the basis of appearance or caste ?
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