Expectations from any one are bad for health…mark my words.
Human relations are any way complex and if you add this tadka of expectations then you’re ready for a complex, multi continental, unpronounceable dish! It can cause a lot of stomach ache, rupture of intestine, umpteen trips to the loo, acidity-either or all of it-resulting into you eating a plain simple bemaro wala khana! Getting my point?
Okay, having said that [preached that actually] there is another truth which prevails all the time- Yeh Dil Hai Ki Manta Nahi. So, this Dil aka heart in English refuses to believe in any theory or prescription which assures its well being. The heart says Main Aisa Hi Hoon… so you know what chemical locha takes place when the mind says that Beta don’t do this and the heart says Main kuch bhi karu tujhe kya ..Ultimately the brain suffers in the end when the heart is in trouble!
Oh and not to forget that in between this heart and brain nok-jhok the poor human being drowns in confusion and is unable to think or decide!
So, what am I saying? That, to avoid all this imbalance of mind, heart and chemicals in our system-let the relationships be free of expectations…let them flow like a clean pure river [which is a rare find these days-thanks to pollution et al] and sail through them enjoying the waves! Not very difficult nah? In fact sounds very interesting and enjoyable…like a holiday in Swiss… [No someone just reminded me that it is over rated which is true…so let’s make it Kashmir]
Expecting is like setting benchmarks and making others perform accordingly. Why pressurize others ? Why not let them be and let yourself be too ? Isn’t it a good deal? You don’t force me to do things and I do the same… Let’s Live !!! And when I say relationships, I mean any kind of relationship that can be formed under the sky. Every relationship needs space like a home which a separate room for un-used stuff. The un-used stuff is not littered every where in the house and not we’re not expected to deal with it every now and then-it has it’s own space.
Then why can’t people get and give a tiny space in relationships?
What’s the harm in letting people float freely- two ways that is! Take one day at a time and let’s un-complicate!!!