Warning: I might sound too old and too idealistic but then that’s what I believe in and I’m putting it down here. Those who agree can nod and add to the post and those who disagree can continue doing that and still add to the post, after all disagreeing doesn’t make us enemies right? 🙂
Welcome to the next generation.
>A 2 year old refuses to listen to any other song but ‘Sheela…’ these days and makes it miserable for parents to handle him if the wish is not fulfilled.
>Another 2 year old girl dances to the tune of the same song and makes it a point that every time she hears this song she is in front of the TV or the music system and shaking her little belly and tiny bums. In this case there is an icing on the cake too…this little girls’ dadi’s [father’s mother] name is Sheela. It is so embarrassing for the entire family when the little one makes it a compulsion for everyone to sit together and enjoy her show…’Sheela ki jawani….’
>A 11 year old continuously sings a song in her loud shrieked voice- ‘Choti si umar mein lag gaya rog,kehte hai log….’
I might have ranted about the same issue time and again about today’s generation and the today’s age that they are growing up in and every time I think about all this I fail to understand what and how could we stop all this? I mean how will kids remain kids of their own age rather growing up and laughing and giggling like adults on some nasty joke or movie scene and not-their-age-type songs?
Yesterday, while I was watching ‘Guzaarish’ we had a family with 2 kids-approximately 3-4 years old. The kids literally giggled at the scene where Hrithik and Aishwarya make moaning sounds and say things like ‘oh yeah, yes yes…’ for a few seconds. I kept wondering what those kids would have understood of that scene?
The other day when we went to watch movie ‘Akrosh’ a couple had brought their two kids ranging in the age group of 4-6. And they were watching all that drama about rape, killing, and all the bloody show. I was stunned…how could parents even think of watching such a movie with their tiny toddlers? Don’t they fear questions like ‘papa, what do you mean by rape?’ or ‘mom, why is this aunty not wearing something on her shoulders?’ or may be the kids are too smart to ask such questions, huh!
Aren’t we elders in the role of parents, uncle-aunts, and elder siblings going wrong somewhere? Aren’t we as a whole system responsible for snatching away the innocence of these little children dwelling in this era?
Remember the times we grew up? Were we ever introduced to such exorbitant show of riots, fights, skin show and raunchy songs? Aren’t we happy that we grew that way? That we knew things only when we should have known them and not before time?
I’m not a parent yet but I always have this fear building in me day in day out when I see or come across such incidences taking place. How will I tackle my kids? What will I tell them when such questions come in front of me before time? How will I make them stay away from the ‘bad’ world that is any way going to dawn upon them somehow?
Also, what I fear is, will I become over protective because I think a lot of these things? Will I over shelter my kids and make them dumb from inside? Will I, in the process of keeping them away from all this and preserving their innocence, constantly pull them back from their growing up and make them fall short as compared to their peers?
A lot of you here are already parents… do you also go through the same thinking process? Do you also carry the same fears as mine? Do you also shake your head when you see a toddler talking like an adult and his/her parents applauding the kid on that?
And a lot of you are in the same boat like me…but does your mind wanders in the future and you think about your future kids and their future? Or it’s just me being over sensitive and hyper about this parenting issue?
This is not all…not that I always come across these kind of examples…I’ve come across some great examples too…
Like the other day I read at Smithu’s blog that she watched Discovery Channel with Poohi and what really impressed me was Smithu also later sat with her and made her draw the volcano that they had seen on the programme,like a fun project. Isn’t that a fabulous way to let her watch the television and even control what and how much she watches?
Or I’ve heard a lot of times at comfy’s that little Buzzie pie,who is less than 2 years old,has this sleeping time table right from the start…this will make her habitual of sleeping early and on time..healthy habit !
Looking at these examples,I mentally keep making notes as to how I have to tackle my kids. I can’t deny them of television and music system or for that matter the god-of-all Internet. But, I can certainly put some system across and make sure what’s being used for what and when and how.
I think every thing boils down to how parents want their kids to grow. How they think should the kids be moving and in which direction. I always feel that once you have children there are certain rules and regulations that you need to put to your lifestyle too. Bring some changes in your system too then only can you make your kids do what you want them to. Am I right?
Though I can only imagine things right now…it’s one thing to be in the situation and make decisions and other thing to watch from a distance and comment,I know!