….‘Don’t you sometimes regret that now you are married and moved out of that girl friend-boy friend phase?’
It didn’t take me a minute to reply to that and my answer was NO. I don’t regret for sure. I don’t miss being that carefree dating couple because this is another phase of our relationship and I love it to the fullest. We’ve spent like 10 years of our lives together now and every day brings in a ray of next level of the bonding. So, I look forward to that and what we’ve already enjoyed is intact in our memories. Just because I don’t miss those times doesn’t mean I don’t remember them or never liked being in that phase.
Marriage sure comes with loads of responsibilities and every couple has to go through the drill of adjusting in their new lives with a new status of ‘being married’. But all these adjustments and responsibilities are easier to take up since both of you are together to face the challenges of new life and define it’s new meaning. It is a greater level of commitment and bonding which is awesome.
….’How could you and H be so compatible? I wish I also get a saner husband like yours,sigh’
To this I’ve to tell you the fact that me and H are not at all alike in any sense.If he would want to go to the North I would certainly at that very moment would feel like being in South. He would want to drink something cold and I would prefer something hot at that time. And it’s not that we do it on purpose but it just happens exactly in the same manner between us. Yes, we’re poles apart yet we’re in love with each other and we’re happy together. Having said this, I don’t claim that we’re the couple which never fights or have any arguments going around between us.Oh we do but that’s normal between any relationship,isn’t it?
Like it needs two to tango it needs two to argue too!
Any relationship needs to be worked upon…nothing lives on it’s own. One has to nurture it for best results. It is like a garden…you water it,you care for it and you feed the plants you’ll have a lovely blossoming garden ! But for that you should be ready to put in those efforts of working hard towards the desired result and on top of that the job doesn’t end there. You’ve to be proactive in maintaining the blossoming garden or it will die for sure!
Having said that these efforts surely are required from both partners. And why not,it’s a joint task and both should work hand in hand to taste the fruitful results 🙂
…..‘So you also work towards maintaining your relationship? I mean you too have to do this?’
Why not? We’re not a heaven dropped-god sent miracle couple which would never fight or argue like the one showed in Honeymoon Travels Private Limited movie. 😆
We’rent set on auto-pilot to live our lives happily ever after !!We too have our bickering moments with each other and I believe every couple has. I say it is a kind of break from that lovey-dovey stuff going on 😉
Being into a relationship is like baking a cake. When you’re new at it you need to be very careful as to what all ingredients are being added and how much time the cake is being baked. But once you’re used to the process you need not consult the recipe and you do it on your own and so effortlessly.
So that’s exactly what happens when I say ‘working towards‘ a relationship. The efforts, love, care, compassion and understanding makes it all happen ! That’s my experience 🙂
I don’t regret to be a wife and take up all the responsibilities and those tiny bits of adjustments which come with it. After all that’s what I wanted-to be a WIFE-when I wished I married H because I wanted to move out of the ‘girl friend’ phase,so why would I regret at all ? 🙂