After reading Tiku’s post I felt like reading my own story that’s just begun few days back.
When Chirpy was still in my tummy we had decided that we would name the baby as per the astrological ‘akshar’-be it whatever. People at that time also interfered and gave us some gyaan on how we should not be so particular on naming our child with the astrological letter and how it would be difficult for us to find one exactly matching the letter and so on. Nevertheless, we got the letter on her birth and the hunt for the name started.
As every one had put it, the letter that her birth chart had prescribed was a bit tough to find a decent name…no actually not that tough but my conditions made the search a bit strenuous, like the name should be unique,meaningful and a longish traditional one. Yeah all these criteria to name a tiny little being,sigh !
So after lot of discussion and debate between me and H,we came up with the final name [from a long list of suggestions] for Chirpy.It’s a Sanskrit word which sounds lovely and has a beautiful meaning to it. But there was a shade of surprise,disappointment and fun in people’s tone who were present at the ceremony.
Surprise because no one had heard such a name.[trust me neither did I ;)]
Disappointment because they thought it’s a tough name and they can’t even remember it for long.[Sigh!!!]
Fun because they thought this isn’t a kind of name and we should still consider a change of it before we get it documented.[A big sigh]
Any way but we were sure of the name and we stuck to it-till date 😉 and the reason is simple-we loved the sound of it,the meaning and it suits our daughter pretty much ! But there are plenty of reactions that we keeping getting on telling her name to people around….some of the typical ones are as follows:
‘what??? Come again…is this a name? really?’
‘aiing? *and they’ll mispronounce it so many times and still not get it right!!!*
‘Are you kidding? Is this her name? Okay tell me the one which is her real name…’
‘Why do you want such complex name for her? She’ll hate you guys for this when she grows up!!!’
‘We’re not going to call her by this one.period’
‘I’ll never get it right in this life at least ! Let me christen her on my own’
‘Never heard of it,where did you dig for this? Did you not get any simpler one?’
‘Her teacher will take ages to get it right and call her…and her peer will find it so difficult to make friends with her because this tough name’
‘OMG whaaaatttttt? You can’t be serious !!!’
And it goes on and on and on…from maids to acquaintances to neighbours to relatives to friends and even the family! So we’ve been facing this flak since the day we named her !
What we have to say is this:Yes it’s a unique name but not difficult.Yes you have never heard of it but it’s a name in our language [Sanskrit] which should not make it any difficult for you to pronounce it.Yes it’s longish but certainly not a tongue twister.
What I really don’t appreciate about people is pestering. I don’t mind you suggesting me something but then if you are insisting on me listening to you-is out of question unless what you’re saying clicks with me. So thank you people that you suggested and fore warned us about what harm [?] this name could bring to us and eventually our daughter but no thank you for your continuous checking whether we thought of changing the name or not-even after telling you strictly in stern voice that THIS is the name!
I know for sure that Chirpy will face some difficulties in telling people her name because of their attitude and resistence to anything new and different….especially when people have to write it…generally people are pretty poor in their spelling formation for simpler words so they can make a disaster of Chirpy’s name but we are going to make her understand this and prepare her for the same. I’m sure when she grows up she’ll love her name for the uniqueness and meaning of it 🙂
P.S. I have to mention that a 3 year young boy [my friend’s son] on listening to Chirpy’s name didn’t get it in the first go but he didn’t let it go until he got it right.He tried and in the third time he got it.I liked the spirit and enthusiasm of that little chap…are the grown-ups listening? And if a three year-er can get it right then I don’t see any harm for grown ups to spell and pronounce it as it should be!
P.P.S. All of you who sent in lovely names to me-thank you so very much dearies ! I appreciate that !
By the way don’t get me wrong here for being fussy about naming but I’ve heard,experienced and believed that whatever the name it has little or more effect of it’s meaning on the person. Hence the quest for finding a meaningful name and not just a name starting with the prescribed letter.