Last week when I was at the mall I saw it happening once again. And then once again my thoughts started wandering and reached to so many places that I’ve no count of. Usually when at this topic I surprisingly don’t arrive at one single point…it’s so many things that come to my mind and stay for a longer time…with a feeling that I can’t do
much nothing about it !
A teenage couple is found clicking photos of themselves in ‘couple’ poses around the cafeteria,in a mall,gardens etc. Whenever I see such thing I always feel insecure for that girl. Whosoever it might be I feel scared..I fear that these photos someday might lead to blackmailing or in wrong hands. I also notice that usually the guy by his looks does not seem to be sensible,stable or simple guy..basically the right kind of guy. Of course looks might be deceptive but then there are things which you can read about a person’s character just by looking closely…if you know what I mean.
Day in day out we hear about MMS scandals taking place,love leaks in the circle of friends and friends of friends and beyond,about how a couple broke up and in order to take revenge exposed the partner on all grounds,sometimes there is nothing wrong between the couple but a nasty friend [usually guy’s] grabs his mobile and gets hold of the private photos and videos [if any] and to play a prank or may be because of vengeance misuses the stuff and that’s how episodes of leaks happen!
I always think where does it start from? Where is the starting point cause I think there is no end point to it all. One cannot control such things from happening. Then is there a way of nipping the problem in the bud itself?
>I don’t know how much this makes sense but what if the girl herself is taking precautions right from the start ? by not letting the guy take her pictures,which in any sense could be misused by any chance…I mean yes in this age and time you can’t possibly skip this activity of getting couple pictures clicked but to be a bit alert about what kind of pictures are being clicked and by whom?
>May be a girl can judge the guy right and then get involved to this extent to trust him blindly? I mean most of the times at the end of it the girl regrets that she chose a wrong guy…or made a haste decision in getting involved or just fell in love with how he wooed her romantically…without being aware of the background of the guy or what kind of company he keeps! But if this holds true then what’s the criteria for judging right?
I don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong. I don’t know if this is a problem at all. I don’t know if there exist any simpler way to protect oneself. And no and I’m not saying that only girls are vulnerable but in most cases it’s the girl. Yes,even a guy’s choice about a girl can go wrong. I’m also not saying that it’s only a girl’s responsibility to stay aware and alert but a guy is equally responsible to protect the girl in all sense if he is committed. But when the commitment vanishes from his heart,the what happens? Who is responsible?
What about those videos which are doing rounds even today despite being quiet old? I happened to see two such videos out of in one the girl was very much aware of the recording being done…she is asking the guy ‘you promise na you’ll not pass it on to your friends? You promise na?’ of course, the guy says a big promising yes and then the action starts. Though the video is only about 2 mins or so but that is enough to expose! Some Lucknow girl but I watched the video…can you imagine from where all it would have reached me? sigh ! And in such cases all people see and remember is the girl not the guy,I’m sure! So who is at loss?
All in all it’s quiet difficult to come to a single point and keep a finger on it,is what I feel. But I fear and feel for the girls when I see them with guys they should not be with. When I hear them telling on phone,possibly to their parents, that they’re attending extra lectures in college and similar excuses of not being at home at the expected time.It’s like a vicious circle of questions and doubts. One leads to another and that to another and it in turn leads to the first one….with no definite solution !