I just read a ‘story’ posted by a friend along with a photograph on FB. Here is the link for any of you who wants to read or have not already read it! STORY
View the image attached to the story only if you’re sure that you can view images that have dead babies,blood and the likes and if no then I request you to skip viewing the image. please refer to AT’s comment below.Sorry AT for not warning you earlier!
It’s about abortion. An emotional heart wrenching monologue of an unborn child of how cruelly his mom decides to abort him and he asks questions as to why did she chose to take his life!
Of course it sounds so sad and it drenches our hearts with tears that our heart cries for every such child who is not being brought in this world. I too felt sad and my heart twinged reading that stuff. But you know what,my mind didn’t stop for a moment to feel sad..it kept thinking about the matter.Abortion. And then of course,my mind did not rest until now that I’m typing it all out here.
I thought about why does one get an abortion done? There could be one or more reasons for a couple/a female to opt for an abortion,like:
Looking at the above list these reasons do seem quiet logical,don’t they? But are we in general going to accept this straight like that? Do we not drop our jaws the moment we hear that certain lady decided to abort before even knowing the reason why she decided to? That’s because abortion is synonymously fed in our mindset with ‘crime’.
I want to go a bit deeper in the entire process by which one reaches to the point of taking a decision of not bringing a baby in this world.
Step 2: Conception
Step3: Confirmation of pregnancy
Step5: Decision [To keep the baby or to abort]
If it’s ‘keep the baby’ no issues but if it’s otherwise then it’s a crime-because it will mean to take one’s life!
Yeah,taking one’s life is a crime but I disagree to associate it with the term abortion,in general.Why?
Take 2 steps back and you’ll know why I think that Abortion is not the ultimate crime. In any which way I think conception is the stage where the crime takes place. And no, I’m not talking about the cases like rape or a method of precaution going berserk . I’m talking about the cases where in a couple is very much by their own will,indulge but for that moment forget about precautions and then helplessly arrive at step 5. If at all the word ‘crime’ has to be used,then this is crime! If in instances like college,career,not being married..are the reasons then I would say ‘boss pehle sochna chahiye tha!’
Okay,so some would say ‘fine one crime has been committed then why commit another one by aborting the child?’ Right, but then just imagine instances like
>a couple is not ready to take up the responsibility of a baby,will it not be crime if the the couple is not able to give the baby required time,attention and amount of nurturing ?
>The household income is not sufficient for the current family size,will it not be a crime to bring in another life to add to the miseries and not provide the bare minimum to the children?
>A lady who is not physically fit and has all the chances to pass on the gene defects to the baby,which are not curable,will she not commit a crime by bringing in the child with sure defects to take place?
>the couple is not married and they are not sure of their future together.**
Bringing up a baby is not a joke! It’s a responsibility. It’s about nurturing a life,helping the tiny human being to learn and know,providing the basics-food,shelter and clothing and since you’re bringing in the baby in this world you’re whole solely responsible for it’s well being,at least until the time he/she is on it’s own.
So,if one is not ready to take up this responsibility and still brings in the baby because it’s a crime to abort,is it fair to the baby? Does it not account for crime? Why should the baby suffer once in the world? Delivering a baby is something which can’t be undone. This decision has to be taken very consciously. Having babies is not random. I’m sure there would be instances where some people might not be aborting under social and emotional pressures of being called as criminals,even if they would not want to go ahead with the pregnancy. Like having a baby is a personal choice of the couple and then keeping a baby should be treated in exactly the same manner!
So basically one has to stop at step 2 if there is even an inch of a doubt of not being prepared to have a baby,a responsibility!
Having said all this, I don’t mean that one who gets an abortion done for no reasons at all is right. And of course I don’t mean that if you’re not ready to take up a girl child’s responsibility,you can abort her and try for another!
All I’m saying is aborting for the right reasons should not be termed as crime but repeating the same mistake should! And stories like the one doing rounds on FB must be thought of keeping the step 2 in mind!
**No harm in still bringing in the child and be the single parent-but then only if you’re self sufficient,sure about your ability to provide at least basics to the child and equipped to take a good amount of flak from family,relatives and society.