Here’s how the world puts pressure on us:
>conform to social norms,whether we agree with them or not
>excuse rude behavior or ignore it
>be nice to everyone
>give unquestioning loyalty to family and friends
>look at life as a race to win
>compromise whenever it’s necessary to succeed
>involve ourselves in other people’s lives
>respect bums and no-gooders
>worry about world events
Here’s how we put pressure on ourselves,by demanding that we:
>be in complete of everything around us
>set an example for everyone we meet
>be honest about others all the time
>be tireless in our efforts to succeed
>help the less fortunate
>be infallible in the eyes of others
>be rich,famous and fit
>be wise in all things
>be an important person
>be all things to all people
Here’s how you can free yourself of pressure & take charge of your life:
>before you decide to depend on another person for help,see if that person has really helped himself or herself.Don’t go by words,go by actions.
>Instead of wondering why things always go wrong,ask yourself why your life always seems to be defined and determined by external conditions.
>Stop looking to people to tell you who you are and what you can do.Everyone will look at your in different ways,and you’ll never really get to know who you are.
>Neither the approval not the disapproval of any individual or group makes any really difference to your life. Set your own realistic or dream-time standards.
>Instead of trying to figure out why XYZ acts this way or that with you,try to find out why you hurt yourself about low XYZ acts.
>People will always want you to be who they want you to be,because that makes them happy.Be yourself and be happy with that.
>When you know where you are going,you won’t be hassled about where everyone or anyone else is going.
>Don’t always wonder: ‘Why do these things always happen to me?’ Ask yourself what it is inside you that attracts bad situations.
>To discover what is right,first you have to discover what is wrong.
>Instead of always crying ‘why me’,find out who this you is that always feels sorry for itself.
>The more truthful you are about yourself,the more you realize what you are not,the less you’ll feel pressurized.
>Don’t stick to solutions that don’t work.If something doesn’t work,try something else.
*please see the ‘Wordy Wednesday’ page for details about this article*
Wordy Wednesdays are created to break the monotony of Wordless Wednesdays.As the name suggests it would contain lot of words- stuff like funny / sarcastic/ love/ life quotes,b’day / sorry / love you / miss you/ friendship/ general messages, poetry in Hindi & Marathi, facts and figures, etc.
Please note that whatever gets posted under the tag ‘Wordy Wednesday’ comes from the cuttings found in my old diary-dating back to 1990s.
The exact source of these cuttings are not known to me today-blame the memory .But these could be any of the following
-news papers,magazines,cartoon strips,teens today,greeting cards, reader’s digest etc.
If you recall having read it somewhere please let me know the source so that I’ll update with credits,thank you.