Since the sad demise of my friend I’ve been thinking. Not that this is the first time a death news has arrived. Have seen deaths in family too. But why do I feel shaken totally? I kept thinking for a long time about T since the news came in. I spoke to few of our common friends and every one said the same thing-just can’t believe this! Is it because of her age? I mean she was just 33? Are we psyched in a way to digest that old people die but young don’t? Do we by default associate death with ailing and sick ? Or it is just that she being our friend we can’t digest the news?
Thinking further I thought was it something that she had planned to tell her husband,H? What was on her mind before she met that ironic accident? Was she carrying and was about to break the news in surprise to H? She might be holding lot of secrets of her friends,family which now all is gone with her.What happens to her stuff? Who sorts it out? There might be something that must not want others to know or see but now everything is in open.But will it now matter? How will her family go through her things? Just by thinking about it,it feels horrible!
People like me who fall in the category of close friends got to know quiet immediately. But what about the ‘others’ who are connected to her FB account? When will they know? Will they ever know? There are so many people one tends to add out of social obligations but isn’t very much friends with. Such people. Will they ever know what has happened to T? Will H close down her account ?
coming to think of it…we have a huge blog friend circle. But I’m not sure how many of our spouses and families know of our blog friends and are connected to them via some medium? What if something happens to me someday? How will you come to know? What if I just leave my blog unattended for a longer time and never answer to your emails inquiring my whereabouts? Will you consider me dead? Does going away from the virtual world means being dead? Of course not but then is it to be considered our moral responsibility to keep our readers and blog friends informed of our well being if we’re not active for sometime ?
What am I saying? I’m asking too many questions right now! I’m really shaken…my heart feels heavy..this weight of sadness is unbearable…I’m time and again taken to old times…I can see her happy-go-lucky face…he bubbly-ness…her infectious energy…she extroversion…I think I’ll take time to realize the truth!
One of her friends posted this on her wall…apparently the first one to post this bad news….
“my friendz plz log in regularly & post something,like or comment 2 make us sure ur alive,today i got sad news of T that she met with an accident and died on the spot. she studied with me up to class 9th .STAY SAFE, LIVE HAPPILY u have a very good family”
Don’t we sometimes act irresponsible and lazy when we don’t return that missed call a friend/family just made to us? Don’t we think that okay we’ll call back later and forget that in life later is most likely not to come?
We can’t stop life to behave erratically but we can stop being lazy and putting things on tomorrow…we can call back as soon as possible taking it as a priority, we can inform people waiting back home of change in our plans to reach late,we can stay in touch via phone calls instead of emails and smses…we can basically take life seriously!