The second episode too did a fairly good job in bringing in another evil of man kind-Child Sexual Abuse. It is indeed horrific as it sounds. The stories that were brought forward were,needless to mention,heart breaking.
I had two-fold intention to watch this episode-1. I want to watch the entire 13 episode series, of course and 2. Because I’m a parent now and I must ‘deeply’ go into ‘this’ matter. And my purpose of watching it served big time!
The learning :
>You should not respect the elders,you should respect their behaviour.
How true is that? Just because you are an elder you are allowed to do wrong? No way! You behave nice,you get respect nice! Deal!
>If your child is coming to you with some issue,hear her. Don’t ignore her.
A simple fact: A child who is at an innocent age,why would he lie about something so big like sexual abuse when he doesn’t even know what it means?
Whatever happens you must trust your child first and stand by her,to give her support and strength to come out in open and identify the culprit.
To hell with the age old fear ‘log kya kahenge‘ just think about ‘what my child is going through’
>Talk to your child often about good touch and bad touch!
>Aamir Khan conducted a very short & sweet workshop for children to understand what is ‘danger’ and what is ‘safe’ and what body parts one must not touch,in any case and if one must touch them that should only be in the presence of your parents.
These 3 body parts are- 1. Chest 2. Part between legs 3. Bottoms.
The moment someone is trying to touch these parts you must resist,scream and run away from there.
Tell your child to tell each and everything to you [parents] no matter what. Which means you’ve to earn their trust and give them the confidence that whatever happens you’ll always be there,holding them tight!
The workshop is a must not forget drill parents should conduct with their children at regular intervals
The hard facts:
>Our country doesn’t have a law against this!
>In cases like oral child sex abuse the abuser can’t be punished because there is no ‘penetration’ of sexual kind!
>There is a bill pending in parliament on this which is not being taken on priority .
>Parents more often then not discard the signals coming from their child regarding this which makes the child feel guilty about himself.
I was astonished, broken and alert after watching this episode. We’ve such greater evils in the society to fight against and still we get down to a level to petty fights,sigh!
Hats off to those who came on the television with their past life stories to share with the world. Unless someone comes out in open others will not take that ‘one’ necessary step of resisting and saying a strict NO! I thank those 3 vanquishers from the bottom of my heart!
We must take actions, We must be bold, We must protect our children and their childhood!
And the episode ended with another lovely song