Last week I visited a friend [who is single]. She is Husby’s colleague and we have recently become very good friends. This was the first time I went to her place.
We chatted and chatted and had some nice brown cake and chai to accompany us. The next best thing was when she said let’s go to my room and we climbed the stairs to her room. Her room looks like some amazing place to be. Nothing fancy there but what I loved is-her room has a balcony with an awesome view, it is a cozy small room with one bed, one table-chair and a book case, plus an almirah of course. There is a fire place in the room [which is non functional] but she has used it creatively. So the overall look of her room in short ‘perfect ‘me’ place’ !
It reminded me of my own room back home. When I was living with my parents. My brother had another.It’s been ages I hadn’t thought of my room. But that day M’s room reminded me of not only my room but all those years spent in there. How perfect it sounded then ‘my room’. The posters like ‘enter at your own risk’ and the likes were pasted on the walls. The bed made exactly the way I wanted it to be. The doors closed when I wanted them to be closed. My girls’ gang’s favorite hangout-my room!
Cut to present. I’m married and we have ‘our’ bedroom! Even when people generally look out for new houses [for rent / purchase] they count rooms as in master bedroom, kids’ room, in-laws room, guest room and if it is going to be very rich purchase then you have a maid’s room too. Do we ever think of a separate room for our selves? Like the wife has one room to herself and the husband has another for himself? We don’t!
In a general set up there is no concept of having two separate rooms for a married couple. And logically what’s the need? When you are sharing yourself, your life with your spouse,the room is a big deal!
On the contrary when there are two sisters / two brothers they share the room and so they are kind of used to this concept of ‘sharing’ unless they belong to a very rich family where in every sibling has a separate room,no matter what!
But those who had separate rooms can,may be,relate to what I’m saying,can you?
So am I saying that bachelors / spinsters have an added advantage of having their own room to themselves? Or put in other words-married people don’t have their own separate room? 🙂
Or may be this thought came to my mind only when I visited a single girl’s room after a long while?
Well,I don’t know but just thinking….and missing my ‘separate’ room ,sigh!