Whenever I’m appearing for an interview,now a days, the first question asked to me on a personal front is
“Are you sure you want to take up a full time job? You have a 1 year old daughter,will you be able to manage?”
What is wrong with this question? Well,nothing much except it irks me that these type of questions are asked only to new mothers who want to resume their careers.
Why is it not a point of concern when new fathers appear for an interview ?
Ain’t a father equally responsible in performing the role of a caretaker as much as the mother ? If you look technically,I think breastfeeding is the only task that a father cannot perform,no matter how strongly he might want to pitch in,rest all comes under fathers-can-do-too category.
So why this differentiation in an outlook towards female candidates? I’ve not come across any male,a new father to be precise,being questioned like this. He is not even questioned on the family set up and how the child will be taken care of,etc.
We talk about female rights, modernization of thoughts and no gender bias. So at least people who belong to a certain class,educated,are expected to open their brains and think wide,no?
But soon before I could answer this question myself,I’ve come to believe that education brings in change but it alone is not enough to ‘service’ the age old mentality!
A mother is by default the one to pause her career,even take a break if required and should be available to her child 24*7.
No matter how the husbands of today have come forward to take equal share of responsibilities in household tasks and child rearing, the society collectively still attaches all this to women.
Moreover, male candidates in general, are not asked questions like
“When do you plan to get married?”
the perspective being- even if he gets married he is not going to be the one to change locations.
“Do you plan to have children sometime soon?”
the perspective being-Hell,even he does,he is not required to take a break,so why bother!
“Is your family ready to relocate with you?”
the perspective being- Of course his family will relocate with him no matter his wife might have some issue s in that!
Whereas,when a female student is appearing in placement interviews she without fail is asked
“What if you get married sometime soon?How will you manage the new job and personal life?”
the perspective being-a newly female has several roles to play in her new home and the husband? No changes in his life,didn’t they tell you?
“What if you get married soon and your husband belongs to another city? Will you leave your job?”
the perspective being- Who considers that the husband can consider leaving his job and change locations for his wife,eh?
And a female candidate who is newly married is asked about her plans to get into the family way etc etc.
Also, female candidates applying to a job in a different city than her current location is asked
“Is your husband ready to relocate?”
the perspective being- Have you taken his permission?
I have no issues in being asked such questions. A company by all means has a right to know such stuff so that the prospective employers can plan the roles and responsibilities accordingly if they are going to recruit the candidate.
I have issues in the perspective by which these questions are asked.Why does it invariably becomes only a females responsibility to quit the job if she gets married to another city? Why does it necessarily becomes females job to make sure her family is ready to move with her for her new job whereas a male candidate changing locations is a unsaid rule that the family will shift?
I don’t know if I’m making any sense..just that me having a little baby makes me any lesser efficient candidate? No way,I’m not ready to take that! I’ve delivered a baby not transformed totally to another person that all my work-ex goes out of my head,huh!
Did you working mothers have any such experience in your professional lives?