He Has Arrived!

The environment is amazing, the smiles are evident and the fragrance in the air is not to be missed! It is the same time of every year when “Bappa” comes in glorifies our homes and hearts! I’m super happy to have him at our home.. there’s an aura around him and it keeps you upbeat and motivated, big time!

The kids are excited equally, even Sibby who is just 1 and doesn’t really get much of this whole thing, looks so excited and all giggly when he is around Him. Chirpy is involved in every little that I’m doing, the rituals and the likes. She wants to learn, she wants to contribute and that makes me do the happy jig 🙂 I always wanted my kids to learn this ritual, feel it and enjoy it every moment. To respect it and to want it all the more, like we do! That said, we never wanted to impose things on them, so I secretly wished for my kids to like it on their own and here I’m, so far so good 🙂 I’m sure the love for Bappa  and his home coming will only increase by age! Touch wood!

Here’s how this year we decorated to welcome Him 🙂

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Do you bring Ganesha at your home? Would love to see yours 🙂 Happy Ganesh Chaturthi and happy times ahead!

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Ahoy!!!

Yes I’m back at this space, can I live without this or working or anything that brings me sanity? No way! I know there are rules to be followed for at least first 40 days of delivering a baby and I somewhat know the significance too of complete shut out and all that. But what I also know is without these things, blogging, working and thinking logically, I can’t survive. I can’t remain sane! I’m hard wired that ways and it may cause some damage to my body, physically, maybe, but can’t help. So what I’m trying to do is, read a little, work a little and now Blog a little only to balance things out.

So anyway, the main news here is this, below!

Both of us are fine, I’m recovering and recuperating from the delivery episode, not that it was dramatic, but its an episode in itself, the ones who have delivered will agree with me.

It feels different to be a mother of two. It feels like a new role altogether, which I had anticipated but now that it is really happening, I’m a little confused at times 🙂 Natural, I guess!

Little Chirpy is behaving like a good girl, as expected and as she had planned to be a good Didu to her little sibling! It is an amazing view to watch them sleep side by side. Sometimes I think to myself, “wow, I made these two?” This whole pregnancy thing is a miracle, God has created a magic!

So for the blog world, we will call Chirpy’s little sibling as SIBBY 🙂

Welcome him and bless him with all your love, like you do to Chirpy! Now the new phase of life begins and let’s hope I’m able to record all the anecdotes here for me and Husby to read laters when our birds would fly away to their destinations 🙂

Don’t you get tired…

of judging people? Of assuming the other side without knowing the facts & figures? Of making assumptions of the situation as is? Of making weird comments and passing judgements on others’ decisions?

I’ve no intention to clarify anything to people who plainly judge others on the face of it. I dislike judging and assuming things on my own without knowing the entire thing and I make sure I’m not doing that, whatsoever. Unknowingly, if I tend to judge, I stop myself immediately and remind that “boss, there must be a situation at other’s end which you don’t know, so stop your imaginations and do better things in life!”

While I can tell myself such things, there is no way I can control the way people think. It irks me, tickles my funny bone and makes me shake my head in sheer disappointment that how low people can get down to just judge others. Really? Don’t they get tired of doing the same things time and again ?

Anyway, the reason for this post, at this moment is just to vent out what I went through this pregnancy and it also brought back some old memories. And you know, writing is one of the ways to take it out of your system and calm down. Moreover, it will give (handful of) my readers a good laugh to know the (low) thinking capabilities of people out there 🙂

I drove to work today, when in my 9th month of pregnancy. People’s reaction “Haww, what a husband, he doesn’t care and let her drive in this state”. 

My side: First of all get this straight, I’m pregnant, not sick to be dependant on others. Yes, being pregnant means being careful but not dependant as long as my state permits me to do my own things, please note! Secondly, I’ve been driven by my husband since a month now and he has done all that it takes to adjust his work life to suit mine and support me in my work timings, where were you when he did this so far, why didn’t you comment then to appreciate him? Thirdly, why today I had to drive because there is a reason: He had to pick our daughter from school and the timings coincided, sometimes you’ve to make choices and adjust routines, we just did that, nothing more to it, no melodrama where in my husband is cruel and making me suffer through my “tough” times etc, ok?

We conceived Chirpy after 5 years of our marriage. People’s reaction “Are you guys having some issues conceiving? I know a specialist, go meet her. Don’t you think 5 years is too long to have kids after marriage? Does this long gap mean you will have only one child? Are you not going to have any kids?

My side: Ladies, this is none of your business, our marriage, our relationship, our prerogative to have kids and decide when to have them. Whether we choose to have a child or not, depends on us. Whether we have issues or not, our problem. Thanks for being over concerned for us, but no thanks, we will approach you if need be, right now just buzz off! I don’t know how many people know or even after knowing how many people think logically, I enrolled myself for an MBA post my marriage. That’s how we had planned it and that’s why we had agreed to get married earlier that we wanted to, family wish and all that. So I studied full time MBA, worked for a while and then I decided to take a break from work to make babies! Whether our planning was wrong or not, let us decide and see for ourselves! We are wise enough and educated enough to make our own choices!!

I delivered Chirpy via C-section process. People’s reaction “What? C-sec, oh o! Motherhood is incomplete without birthing vaginally. Poor Chirpy!”

My side: What? Are you kidding me? Just because I delivered Chirpy via getting operated and not “normally” I’m a less of a mother to her? Wow, what a theory, from where did it come from, Please share the source! What actually happened during the delivery is unimaginable. I was in labour for almost 20 hours and finally my water broke which led the doctors and us to take a decision. Mine and my baby’s safety was utmost important rather than worrying about how much mother would I remain upon being operated! I guess that’s the whole point, I’ve heard people emphasizing on their wives/daughters-in-law delivering vaginally and wait until the last moment, sometimes even risking the woman’s life. How fair is that? I think birthing is a process to bring happiness and new life to the world and not increasing risks and failures to families and new mothers!

Its my last month of pregnancy and I’m still going to office. People’s reaction “What? Are you crazy? You should sit at home and relax.What kind of MIL it is? She doesn’t guide on this front? Husbands lets your step out? 

My side: I’ll repeat my logic here. I’m pregnant, not sick. I’m enjoying my life, my time and I’m comfortable. I’m thankful to my husband and MIL of being supportive of my decisions and not enforcing me to do anything that I don’t wish to. My MIL puts in extra efforts to ensure I’m not doing a single task at home, howsoever I would want to do little things. My husband is my partner in my sleepless nights, and in the morning does all the chores related to my 4 years old to send her off to school etc. Moreover, my doctor is supportive of the fact that as long as I can easily live normal life, I should continue without breaking the routine. If I can go to work I should, if I can drive without any hassles, I must. So what else do I want? Being pregnant and living a normal life, ain’t that a great state to be in? So what’s there to complain?

I enrolled myself to a full-time MBA course after marriage. People’s reaction: The entire anecdote is written here, interested may hop over !

Well, there are so many things that I’ve heard and have been judged about. Can’t write them all here. Not worth and very tiring basically! But anyway I feel good having written all these. Taken out of my head 🙂

 

Moving Home, Moving Life!

We shifted houses and boy, it is certainly a herculean task. First pack the entire household in those brown boxes and then transport them to the new location.For a day or two our new abode was looking carton floored. There was no space to see the floor and we had to jump and hop between the boxes to make our way. Well, not jump and hop literally 😉 Once done, this seemed still easier as compared to opening the boxes and setting the things up at their places. Not easy, not at all easy I say.

We moved in the new house on 13th June, Saturday. Today on a Wednesday we are almost set up, barring couple of shelves, meaning couple of cartons! But now the makaan looks like a ghar.

I’ve a mixed feeling relating to this move. I know we’ve moved for the better. I know there is greater good attached to this change yet I’m not 100% delighted about it. You know what I mean? Let me explain:Leaving the old house, where you’ve been living for no matter how less a time or how long a time, it breaks your heart. You not only leave the house but you leave the neighbourhood, the street, the birds, the plants, the soil, the voices of the vendors and everything else that you get used to while living in that locality. Its not only about moving bases, it is about moving life.

But I can’t feel sad. I can’t feel upset about this move, when I was the  one who planned it basically. So, it is not fair to the new house, to not give it a chance to let us feel alive. To create moments to last life long. To create memories that I’ll keep in my heart forever, I know. So, I should pick my heart up, chin straight and embrace this new life that has begun in the new house home. After all,

PIKU : A Mold Breaker

PIKU a movie which I think is a must watch for everyone. It is a kind of movie which you really want to see and enjoy. The concepts are far more better than regular commercial movies. That said, I’m not denying the fact that commercial movies should not be made or are useless. But let’s get this straight, those movies are stereotypical and for entertainment only. Movies like PIKU are food for thought, they get inside your head and make you think and above all entertain you simultaneously and when it ends you still are light headed and not burdened with the concepts shown in. I think that’s a package worth spending your precious money in watching a movie in multiplex!

It is evident that I’m in love with this movie. The characters did 100% justice to their roles and the director has given them space to perform, to be them!

Some things are worth mentioning here : Apart from the entire movie and the concept, the best part was when Piku says “my father has prepared me that much, for me to handle all alone” loved this ending to a fabulous story which otherwise would have been spoilt if the end was something else.

The whole concept of the movie was women liberation, independence, her choices and her own space. I loved the way Bhashkor Banerjee kept saying “a woman marrying without purpose is low IQ”. “She is not made to cook and clean for the husband and be available for sex”. The father himself advocating for an independent life for his daughter is kind of breaking the mold big time in a society like ours, where father (& mother) are the first one’s to think (read: forced to think) that daughters are burden on them and should be married off asap!

Rana Choudhary, another classic character that this movie produced. He fell for Piku but did not force his feelings on her even after knowing that she is very much reciprocating. As a typical Indian mentality male he could have coaxed her, saying she can’t handle her life all alone and they should get married. Instead, he kept things stress free, open and let the relationship be. I think to take this stand and sticking to it is very important in a relationship and is rarely seen being done by a man!

PIKU is a fresh breath of air for our culture. It is a mold breaker and not a film who’s agenda is to entertain only! Certainly a must watch !

Kya Padha Hai,Kya Padh Rahe Hain, Kya Padhenge

Took this from Smitha’s blog today morning. A tag, an easy tag and that too about books 🙂

This tag comes from Shouldbereading’s blog which is a weekly Wednesday tag about reading!

Although I should have done this tag on my books blog, but nevertheless, I just started writing here, so!

These are the Question I need to answer here:

-What are you currently reading?
-What did you recently finish reading?
-What do you think you’ll read next?

Ans1: I’m currently reading two books: 

  

Ans2: I recently finished reading and reviewed on my books blog here.

 

 

 

Ans3: Next I want to pick up 

 

 

It is on my mind since long but somehow am not able to pick it up, started reading 1st part a month back but could not continue beyond 15 pages so stopped. I want to restart!